Reduce the number of decisions
Ask one or two trusted people to coordinate food, calls, transportation, child care, or visitors. You can postpone nonessential decisions. You can also change your mind about what you want shared.
Protect details and privacy
You do not owe anyone graphic information, speculation, or an explanation. Choose a short statement that trusted people can repeat. Correct harmful rumors without repeating unsafe details.
Care for the body in shock
- Drink water and eat simple food when you can.
- Write down medications and instructions from your own clinician.
- Avoid driving if you are too exhausted or distracted.
- Limit alcohol and drugs.
- Ask someone to stay if nights feel frightening.
Talk with children honestly
Use clear, age-appropriate language and avoid euphemisms that may confuse them. Tell them the death was not their fault, invite questions over time, and identify the adults who will care for them.
Funerals and memorials
Center the person’s full life. Avoid method details, blame, romanticized language, or messages suggesting death was an escape or reunion. Provide support information when a community is affected.
There is no correct first week
You may cry, feel numb, become angry, handle practical tasks, or be unable to function. These reactions can change hour by hour. Seek trauma-informed grief care or a suicide-loss group when you are ready.