You can ask an adult or counselor what will stay private and what they must share to protect you. When someone may be in danger, adults often cannot promise secrecy.
If there is immediate physical danger, an active attempt, or a medical emergency, contact emergency services immediately.
What you can do now
Take these steps in order.
1
Tell the truth about whether you feel safe.
2
Ask who will be told and what they will be told.
3
If you still may not be safe, do not let fear about privacy stop you from getting help.
Words you can use
Copy, send, or say this:
“I want help, and I am worried about privacy. Please tell me what you must share, who you will contact, and what happens next.”
Privacy rules differ
Age, location, school policy, professional role, and the level of danger can affect what is kept private. This page cannot promise a specific result.
Safety information may need to be shared
A trusted adult, school professional, clinician, crisis counselor, or emergency professional may involve others when they believe someone could be harmed. Ask them to explain the purpose and the smallest necessary next step.
You can ask to be included
Ask to be present when a caregiver is contacted.
Ask what words will be used.
Ask what happens before you go home.
Ask who will check on you afterward.
A secret about suicide is too heavy to carry
If a friend asks you to keep suicidal thoughts secret, tell a safe adult. You can be loyal to your friend and still bring in help.
Foundational health and safety guidance grounded in cited national sources. Qualified clinical and suicide-prevention review is required before broad public promotion.
