Ask. Be there. Help keep them safe. Connect. Follow up.
Five actions that can help someone in suicidal pain
You do not need to diagnose the person or deliver a perfect speech. These five actions give you a clear role while bringing in qualified support.
If there is immediate physical danger, an active attempt, or a medical emergency, contact emergency services immediately.
What you can do now
Take these steps in order.
1
Ask directly about suicide.
2
Stay present and listen.
3
Contact 988 together if suicidal thoughts are present or you need guidance.
Words you can use
Copy, send, or say this:
“I care about you. Are you thinking about suicide? I will stay with you while we bring in more support.”
1. Ask
Use direct language: “Are you thinking about suicide?” Asking does not create suicidal thoughts. It can reduce ambiguity and give the person permission to answer honestly.
2. Be there
Listen without arguing, lecturing, rushing, or trying to prove that life is good. Put away distractions. Thank them for telling you. If you cannot be physically present, help connect them with someone who can.
3. Help keep them safe
If danger may be immediate, stay with them and get urgent help. Work with a crisis counselor or professional to create distance from dangerous items and places. Never place yourself in physical danger.
4. Help them connect
Call or text 988 together. Add another trusted person and arrange professional follow-up. A warm handoff—staying until the next support is engaged—is stronger than simply providing a number.
5. Follow up
Reach out after the crisis and after appointments. Use direct questions. Help with practical barriers such as transportation, scheduling, child care, or remembering the safety plan.
Your role has limits
You can be caring and still need backup. Do not become the only person who knows. Involve qualified help, and seek support for your own stress after the immediate crisis.
