1. Ask
Use direct language: “Are you thinking about suicide?” Asking does not create suicidal thoughts. It can reduce ambiguity and give the person permission to answer honestly.
2. Be there
Listen without arguing, lecturing, rushing, or trying to prove that life is good. Put away distractions. Thank them for telling you. If you cannot be physically present, help connect them with someone who can.
3. Help keep them safe
If danger may be immediate, stay with them and get urgent help. Work with a crisis counselor or professional to create distance from dangerous items and places. Never place yourself in physical danger.
4. Help them connect
Call or text 988 together. Add another trusted person and arrange professional follow-up. A warm handoff—staying until the next support is engaged—is stronger than simply providing a number.
5. Follow up
Reach out after the crisis and after appointments. Use direct questions. Help with practical barriers such as transportation, scheduling, child care, or remembering the safety plan.
Your role has limits
You can be caring and still need backup. Do not become the only person who knows. Involve qualified help, and seek support for your own stress after the immediate crisis.