Listen before reacting

Avoid anger, punishment, disbelief, lectures, or rapid questioning. Your first goal is safety and connection, not discovering every reason tonight.

Make the environment safer

Work with a qualified professional to reduce access to dangerous items and medications. Do not rely on verbal promises or monitoring alone.

Bring in the care team

  • Contact 988 for immediate guidance.
  • Notify a trusted co-parent or caregiver when safe and appropriate.
  • Arrange a professional mental-health assessment.
  • Coordinate with the school counselor while protecting privacy.
  • Leave with a written follow-up and safety plan.

Questions to ask the professional

  • What level of supervision is recommended right now?
  • What should we remove, lock, or change at home?
  • What signs mean we should return for urgent help?
  • Who do we call after hours?
  • When is the next appointment?
  • What should the school know?

What not to say

  • “How could you do this to us?”
  • “You have nothing to be sad about.”
  • “You are only trying to get attention.”
  • “Promise me and we will forget this happened.”
  • “If you keep this up, you will lose your phone or friends.”

After the immediate crisis

Follow-up is part of care. Confirm appointments, understand discharge instructions, support siblings, and keep asking your child what helps them feel connected and safe.

A return of suicidal thoughts does not mean the family failed. Use the safety plan, ask directly, and reconnect with care.